Fall in Love Again Without Starting Over
Fall in Love Again Without Starting Over
Last week I challenged you to fall back in love with your business.
This week?
Let’s talk about falling back in love with your spouse.
Because you can grow revenue, expand your team, and build influence… while your marriage quietly drifts.
And that cost is too high.
As many of you know, my mission is to reverse the direction of divorce, addiction, and suicide among private practice owners and their teams. The pressure point I see most often is not marketing or leadership.
It is marriage.
The Business–Marriage Tension
I usually see three patterns:
- You work together and never stop talking about the business.
- Your spouse does not work in the business and only hears the stress.
- Or you do not talk about the business at all, which creates distance.
None of these are wrong.
But unmanaged, they create strain.
Years ago, I ran a company called The Business of Marriage. I took business principles that created success and applied them to relationships.
One of the most powerful tools Shannon and I developed is:
The Marriage Mastermind
Why It Works:
Healthy businesses meet proactively.
They do not wait for crisis.
They inspect what matters.
Marriage is no different.
Most couples only talk deeply when something is wrong. That is reactive.
The Marriage Mastermind is proactive. It is a structured conversation that keeps you aligned, informed, and growing together.
Ideally twice a month.
At minimum once a month.
Your marriage deserves intentional leadership.
Guidelines
Before you begin:
- Find a secluded place.
- No distractions.
- Be emotionally present.
- Set 30 to 60 minutes max.
- Create a reward afterward.
The reward reinforces connection.
The 4 S’s
- Schedule– Align your calendars and responsibilities so you are not competing for time and energy.
- Security– Talk openly about finances. Money is rarely the issue. Secrecy is. Financial infidelity happens when spending is hidden or downplayed. Small cracks in transparency grow. This conversation prevents that.
- Support– Ask, “How am I doing as a spouse?” Not to defend. To grow.
- The Sandwich– Start with appreciation. Make a clear request. End with affirmation. Safe communication builds connection.
A Real Example
When our kids were little, three under three, I asked Shannon, “How am I doing as a dad?”
She said she loved how much time I spent with them.
Then she said it would make her happy if I were more careful with my sarcasm because the kids were copying me and it was coming out mean.
I was blindsided.
But once I heard it, I adjusted.
That small awareness shifted the tone in our home.
That is what this tool does.
It reveals blind spots and gives you a chance to grow on purpose.
Your Valentine’s Gift:
Download the free Marriage Mastermind guidelines and agenda here:
https://storage.googleapis.
Print it. Schedule it. Try it.
If it strengthens your relationship, use it.
If it helps someone on your team, share it.
Proactive, Productive, and Profitable,
Dino